T Diddy :: Your Friendly Black Dentist

There are many ways to meet women. One way is to go to a club or bar and spit drunken venom to a unexpected dame. I am not a big fan of this approach. One, there are to many walls up. It is just about impossible to penetrate. Two, the pretense is so thick a sword master would have a difficult time to cut through it. However, the reason why I really do not care for it is because you cannot establish any real bond or connection beyond the type or beer you drink or that you like to dance. How do you call a girl up after this kind of encounter? What do you say? Ultimately, you have to have that 1st dreaded date where you play 20 questions and sit through uncomfortable silence. 1st dates like this suck. Granted it can work out, but normally it is just to get a quick piece and not to establish a strong relationship. This is why anybody who implements this "Short-Term" game is a rookie when it comes to relationships.

I heavily favor "Long Term" game. This is when you meet somebody, in my case a woman (this is avoid Kenta's and Mark's gay jokes), and you be yourself to meet her. You recognize her at a party from a distance that she is good looking. You approach with no intentions, but to be friendly and strike a conversation. There is nothing more to that. A so-so looking woman could strike a conversation with you out of no where. Just because this happen, there is no need to act like a rookie and think you are man. There is no reason to think that you next move is to hook up. You could meet her at work. However, the same action applies. Simply be friendly and strike a conversation when possible. The intention of this action is not to get any number or hook up for the night. A veteran to the game would not even try. He would take his time. For example, he would wait to see if he sees her again in the future. If he does, then they have much more in common and can build from the first encounter. This is when you can get the number, but it does not mean you have to call. If you meet her a work, you continue to be yourself and not try to make any moves. I do not condone the work relationship thing. I believe it brings too many other factors that do not need to be there to the relationship. The veteran who employs the long term game is not in a rush to be called to action. He takes his time and gets to know the woman over time. This way, when you do make your first phone call to her, you have things to talk about. When you go on the first date, you don't have to ask the 20 questions. When you first go out, there will have already been a natural progression of being friends first. There is no need to try to be friends first because you have already established that. There is no need to be a player because you naturally were yourself to get the date. Essentially, you are being true to yourself and her. Since, you are being yourself; you are build something based on you and not on an act. "Long-Term" game is not for everybody. Not too many people know about it or if they do, try to implement it. If you are one of these people, call me and I will school you.

Well, I did it. I have been accepted to Dental School. After leaving my high-tech career two years ago in March, I have successfully opened a new door. I sacraficed all of this past year to learn, take tests, fill out applications, and do interviews for this moment. This milestone is a big relief as it was not certain that I would go to school. However, I am!! Never did I think that this little nappy headed black boy from the small town of Paso Robles would be going to an Ivy League school.

After 2 years and 4 months, my braces have finally been removed. I finally can smile without hooks digging into my lips. I look and feel like the adult that I am. This is amazing! I am so happy. I remember when I was in high school and had my braces removed for the 1st time. The joy I had then does not compare to the joy I have now. Maybe it is because I paid for them myself or maybe because I went through so much the pasts 2 years to obtain this handsome smile. The next step will be apply the finishing touches with a little whitening process and replacing my silver fillings with the white fillings. By the time I am finished, if you think I smile a lot now, then you have a big surprise coming.

Moving Sucks. There is no question about it. It is one of the worst things in the world. The sad thing is; is that I am a master at it. Since when I was 17 years old, I have constantly been on the move. I first moved out of my mom's home into the freshman year, then out into the Black House the following year, and then into the Benton Lake Tarrace apartments the following years. There I stayed for two years; however, I was on the move in the summer time living in Galt and Davis in consecutive summers as I worked at Clorox in Fairfield. My movement does not stop there. After graduation, I moved to Milpitas. The following year, Sunnyvale, and finally concluding my Bay Area tour, I moved to San Jose. All of that movement led me to where I am now. In New York City, I have been chilling for close to 4 years. My current apartment is the closest to a home that I have created since I left home at 17. Yes, I have been on the move and I cannot wait until I get a home.

With my recent decision to go to Penn for Dental School, I will be on the again. It is so exciting to start a new chapter in my life, dental school, and to be moving to a new city. I have been looking at neighborhoods and different complexes in the Philadelphia area with great anticipation. It is so exciting to start something new and go forward with life. However, this great move requires me to pack up my belongings and be on the move again. If it were up to me, I will find a place to live for the next 4 years. Once I move, I do not want to move again until that time. I want to fix up my spot and make it my home. It is about time for me to get a home.