Debbie Does Drivel

There's a married couple I work with (who I like a lot), who feel compelled to offer me advice on everything domestic.
Not a week goes by where the man doesn't say, "You and Kevin need a buy a house." As if buying a home in San Diego on our income is as easy as just deciding to do it. In fact, he says this with almost a "Well, why AREN'T you buying?" tone and has actually suggested he talk to Kevin to talk him out of his stubborn decision to not buy a home right now.

I don't get it.

Then, they bring up the fact that we need to have a baby NOW.
This, despite the glaring fact that we are renting a two-bedroom home with little room for a child, and want to spend the next year getting on our feet financially so we can have a child we can actually feed and clothe.
To this, they say, "There's never a good time to have a baby."
Which, to an extent I get. But if you are paying the debts on past sins (living on a credit card in Brentwood, CA, driving a Lexus and going to bars every night), you need to be responsible and pay off the charged wine and car (you don't actually have anymore but are still paying $450 a month for...) before you produce children. Plus, I'm still detoxing.

These people have a four-bedroom home in Rancho Penasquitos. They drive a Lexus and a BMW. They can afford to have children right now. They bought their house pre-1998, before the housing market went kablooey. And the guy is always telling me, "Well, we we're going to wait too, but just decided to have the children or we never would..." with a glaring, accusatory look at me like my decision to have children or not NOW will affect his sense of decency in the world forever.

It's bothersome.Their insistence that we do things their way, at their suggested pace, while completely ignoring our living/financial situation which has been detailed for them time and again, is irritating.

Oh! Then there's the wife's questions: "You and Kevin DON'T have a joint checking account?" or "You DON'T do Kevin's laundry?" like these things are so supremely foreign to her and surely indicate the end of marriage as an institution. I wouldn't be surprised to hear her surreptiously on the phone with Dr. Joyce Brothers outlining the demise of our marriage and what can she do to help?

Just because she and her husband combined their finances the MONTH they started dating and have had them that way ever since, does not mean that everyone needs to be so co-dependent.

Oh! Oh -- and THEN she looks at me like the Church Lady if I tell her I'm going out with the girls on a weekend night. She actually gasps, I swear, as she says, "What about Kevin?" Like to leave him alone to pursue other activities is akin to ripping his heart out.

By the way, these people are in their 30s, so it's not like they got married in the 1950s when that kinda thing was rampant (wasn't it?).

Thanks, I needed to vent.